While it may be okay at some level to have a tinge of this personality trait, having a dominant perfectionist peculiarity is another story and if you can’t control it your life will be a complete disaster. When a perfectionist fails to satiate what he has in mind emotional turmoil of sorts is felt and this, my friend, is the toughest to get rid of. That is why there is nothing good about being a perfectionist at all unless you learn how to control it. But if your pursuit causes you to have self-doubt and bouts of self-loathing then perhaps you should consider overcoming this debilitating personality trait because it won’t do you any good. Don’t be fooled by the smiles perfectionists display on the outside because, in truth, their insides are screaming in insecurities and frustrations.
Perfectionists fear mistakes and because of this fear they become paralyzed. Instead of [...]
Let’s be honest here, anyone who says he doesn’t crave for success is a liar. Regardless whether you’re at the very bottom of the corporate food chain or next to the top I am convinced that those two people, even when they’re on opposite ends of the spectrum share one thing in common, a goal to be successful. But even when they share the same goal it doesn’t mean their definition of “success” is the same.
A quick search on the internet will give you a cascade of information on how to be successful. It seems that some people are actually convinced they really have the keys to success especially those who claim to have experienced it themselves. However, even when websites are flooded with information on how to reach success, none of those will help you if your definition of success is not the same as theirs. Each of [...]
Being a perfectionist is a tough job. Contrary to what other people assume, a perfectionist is not someone who has his life in perfect order. In fact, their lives aren’t even close to perfection. Being a perfectionist can be described as having a ridiculous obsession of wanting things to be perfect. They want their jobs, their performance, their partners, their kids, and everything they are involved in to be flawlessly perfect.
I myself had once been a perfectionist and let me just say that those were the worst years of my life. It was difficult to swallow seeing my life in a perpetual state of disarray all because I failed at being a perfectionist. The dissatisfaction consumed me on a daily basis that I beat myself up emotionally. It was very difficult for me to cope and that was when I decided to rid myself of that horrible, self-destructive [...]
A good number of people procrastinate for a good number of reasons. Heck, even the most organized person in the world has once been a victim of procrastination at some point in his life. Procrastination chooses no one and it can happen to just about anyone. Good thing there are people who, through trial-and-error, have found ways to overcome procrastination and to stop it from haunting them.
Be true to yourself.
You know yourself well enough to assess whether or not you can accomplish what is required. But if you can’t, be honest so you can delegate the task to someone else. An example is when your boss assigns a tough task to you. Out of pride, you don’t want to admit that you’re having trouble and asking someone for help is the last thing on your mind because you don’t want your boss to think you’re not cut out for [...]
Putting things off is a simple explanation of what procrastination is. The very essence of procrastination is prioritizing unimportant tasks in lieu of the more important and urgent ones. Although common sense will tell us to prioritize what’s important, procrastinators choose to do the opposite even if it means they’ll get anxious and stressed out. You see one of the worst things about procrastinating is that people who do it are fully aware that they are procrastinating, but they just can’t control it. And as a result, they get fidgety and frazzled on top of not getting anything done.
If you don’t stop procrastination on its tracks it will get the best of you. It will take your joy, your sense of control, your job, and your integrity among others. And nothing sucks more than not being able to control your own life. Don’t be a slave to procrastination and [...]